Even if you’ve been out of domestic abuse for decades, I bet you are still being held hostage, in your head, by your abuser. There are thoughts and experiences that bring back that empty feeling in your stomach, make your heart race and cause the familiar burning dread of fear and guilt in our hearts and minds. Until we accept that we were really abused and that it’s OK to embrace the options and support available to us, our abuser will continue owning real estate in our minds. If you’re like me, your first response is “I’m past all that!”. Maybe you are. 14 years after leaving, I still was not. When I began talking about my experience, I began to truly heal. Please, listen to my story and see if any of it resonates with you.