I learned this lesson with the word “try”. One of my coaches said, “Try to take this pencil out of my hand.” I pulled on the pencil, gripped tightly in his fist. I didn’t take it out of his hand. Of course, that was the Lesson. You either do it, or you don’t. There is no “try”.
Now, when I hear people say “I’ll try to be there” I assume they won’t show up. When a coaching client says “I’ll try”, I dig deeper because the odds are the task will go un-attempted. Either you do it, or you don’t.
What is the only reasons we put things off; why do we procrastinate, why use perfection as a reason not to move forward (I can’t put that out there, it’s not perfect!)? Fear.
The bottom line is fear.
I bet you know the acronym False Evidence Appearing Real. F.E.A.R.
Most of the time those things we are afraid of never, ever, ever show up. I don’t recall the exact percentage, but it’s pretty darn high.
Living in an abusive relationship heightens fear, and it’s very real. I never had a gun pointed at me or was threatened with a knife, but my fear was real. Those are not the kinds of fear I’m talking about right now.
I’m talking about the fear of change. I’m encouraging you to face just one little challenge that will improve your confidence; a baby steps into your future.
If you’re living in control, you’ve taken a huge step just reading this post! Thank you for that.
If you’ve recently escaped your personal disaster of a life, congratulations and keep on moving! You’ve got this.
Either way, I encourage you to choose a positive, upbeat thought to carry with you today. You’ll either do this or you won’t. It’s totally up to you.
Here are a few examples:
- “Today I choose to smile”
- “Today I choose to feel happy when I look at nature”
- “Today I know my future is my own”
- “Today I choose to like myself”
- “Today I know I am on the Right Path”
- “Today I know I am not alone”
Of course, feel free to make up your own positive thought.
One of my favorites is “Be still and know that I am God”. This thought carried me through many, many low spots.
For the fastest positive shot-in-the-arm, smile when you say your thought. Really smile; feel the good, radiant, warm feeling of a real smile flow through your mind, your heart, your body.
It’s safe to think an upbeat positive thought each day, all day and/or when you need it. No one can see what’s going on in-side our head. Use that space, and that power, to begin changing how you think.
Expect things to get better, no matter your situation.
This exercise applies to jobs, dealing with grown kids, nasty situations at home or just plain dealing with life. Grab on to one thought and hold it in your heart. Say it often in your mind.
This will change your life… if you do it. You either do it or you don’t. I’ve given you the new input, the thought; embracing it and taking action is up to you