You’re Not Crazy; You Were Abused

People often see the victim of narcissistic abuse as “crazy” and full of fear and doubt.  The narcissist shows up cool, calm and collected.  Right? Why is that? Because the narcissist has the ability to make their victims responsible for any and every...

If We Don’t Change, Nothing Changes Revisited

There are two statements I make that some people take personally statements that they feel are demeaning and insensitive to women who have lived in domestic abuse. I disagree. The statements are:  “If we don’t change, nothing changes” and “When...

I Was Looking For My Way Out

For 22 years, Chandra Bachu knew what it was like to live in domestic abuse. She tried to escape; staying in shelters three different times, but without money saved, she returned home?.to daily abuse. She said, “I was looking for my way out and didn’t get...

No One Else’s Footsteps Lead Where You’re Going

You are creating your own reality so am I!  How do we do that?  We gather information, embrace what resonates with us and apply that lesson to our lives. No one has your exact experience.  No one lived the exact same abuse that you did.  No one stayed for the same...