An old country song I heard this morning turned on a bright AH-HA light in my mind. “There goes my life…there goes my future…”
I don’t know about you, but I remember feeling that way. I remember thinking “There goes my life…”. The song, of course, is about an unplanned pregnancy and it’s got a happy ending.
My “song” was about living the life I chose. It was about not being happy. I thought I was stuck there … forever. Living in control is what I knew as my reality. Walking on egg shells, being afraid, wondering when the next blow up would occur…sometimes forcing it just to end the tension.
Turned out, I figured out that I was keeping myself in that stuck place. We DO create our realities.
Personal growth, coaching, and counseling and finally applying all that I was taught, all that I learned.
Change is an inside job.
Nothing changes until we change.
We all have three choices:
- Let things stay the same; stay stuck; accept this as your reality…forever
- Make changes; get counseling for you and your spouse/partner; learn and grow
- Get out. If the way it is now is unacceptable (1), and if getting help, making changes doesn’t work (2) then the only option is to get out.
I encourage you, today, to think about where you are, what you want to change, do you think you can positively influence your abuser? I know, for me, I had to try everything I could think of before I made the final decision to leave. By then I had done the work on me. I was ready.
Are you? Are you ready to make a choice 1-2 or 3? Don’t do anything until you know for sure.
And, this lesson applies not only to abuse or damaging relationships. It also applies to jobs, negative friends, just about anything. 1-2 or 3!??