He Had Me Convinced I Was Crazy

He was kind and caring, and then he turned mean and violent.  He told me it was my fault he got so angry. I believed him for the longest time. I believed he wanted to change. If you are a survivor of abuse, you have experienced all those emotions and beliefs.  Each of...

Don’t Forget Why You Left

Somewhere in the recesses of our minds we feel guilty for having left our abuser…on some level you still love him; (even years later) you wonder how he’s doing. We’re barreling toward another holiday season, and it’s easy to excavate only the good memories.  The...

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Would you tell a friend that it’s OK to be controlled by her husband, to be thrown against a wall, to cover bruises with make-up and long sleeves, to walk back into abuse again and again and again?   Of course not!  So, why do we believe everything we think?  In our...

Men Don’t Outgrow Being Abusers

We rationalize until we can’t rationalize anymore.  Sound familiar?  If you’ve ever lived in abuse, you comprehend the reality of that statement.  Mickie shares the story of an abused woman as reported to Huffington Post.  It’s not Mickie’s story, it is Jessica’s;  a...

Being Aware of Your Thoughts

Our brains process 12,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day.  Our conscious mind processes 40 bits of information per second; our subconscious mind processes 40 Million bits of information per second!  Mickie provides ideas and a fun experiment to learn how to be aware of your...