You Don’t Get Who You Want

You Don’t Get Who You Want

You Don’t Get Who You Want. You Get Who You Are. Years ago I heard Dr. John Maxwell speak.  What he said changed my life. The statement is simple and straightforward: ‘You don’t get who you want.  You get who you are.” I was working in sales at the time.  Network...
Why Don’t You Just Leave Domestic Abuse?

Why Don’t You Just Leave Domestic Abuse?

That is the question I dislike the most…I rarely use the word, but I HATE that question: “Why don’t you just leave?” It insinuates that we have a choice.  It insinuates that we might even enjoy the abuse.  It insinuates nothing good or positive.  Yep, I hate that...
On the Flip Side … Everyone Loves Him

On the Flip Side … Everyone Loves Him

Doesn’t that drive you crazy?!  He is a mean S.O.B at home but, on the flip side … everyone loves him. He’s fun to be around, even lights up the room.  He’s smart, handsome (even ruggedly good looking), charismatic, and on the flip side, he hits you, threatens you,...
But He Won’t Let Me

But He Won’t Let Me

“…But He Wouldn’t Let Me!” Have you said those words? “I wanted to spend this holiday with MY parents, but he wouldn’t let me.”  “I wanted to go out with my girlfriends, but he wouldn’t let me.” “I wanted to replace our worn out couch, but he wouldn’t let me.”  Have...
“I Think I’ll be Able to Cry …”

“I Think I’ll be Able to Cry …”

It’s not “evergreen” on-line to mention dates and current events. I live in Southwest Florida and Hurricane Irma worked her way through this State less than a week ago…there, I did it! I know it’s a 21st Century, 1st World problem, but when living in the trauma of no...
Are You Showing Up as Light and Solution?

Are You Showing Up as Light and Solution?

When a sabre tooth tiger or grizzly bear approaches us along a path, our instinct, our conditioning, is flight…we know we can’t fight these monsters, unless we happened to have armed ourselves with a big ol’ gun before our hike. Back then, we probably didn’t wander...