Somewhere in the recesses of our minds we feel guilty for having left our abuser…on some level you still love him; (even years later) you wonder how he’s doing.
We’re barreling toward another holiday season, and it’s easy to excavate only the good memories.
Would you tell a friend that it’s OK to be controlled by her husband, to be thrown against a wall, to cover bruises with make-up and long sleeves, to walk back into abuse again and again and again?
We rationalize until we can’t rationalize anymore. Sound familiar? If you’ve ever lived in abuse, you comprehend the reality of that statement. Mickie shares the story of an abused woman as reported to Huffington Post. It’s not Mickie’s story, it is Jessica’s; a woman whom, we hope, did the in-side work necessary to stay out of abusive relationships.
Our brains process 12,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day. Our conscious mind processes 40 bits of information per second; our subconscious mind processes 40 Million bits of information per second! Mickie provides ideas and a fun experiment to learn how to be aware of your thoughts, and how to choose the ones that support your growth, safety and sanity.
Abuse survivor and author, Amber Castleman, speaks her truth in this candid discussion with Mickie. Her new book His Love Hurts; How to Break Free from Your Abuser, and this open conversation with Surviving Abuse Podcast, chronicle Amber’s turbulent and seemingly helpless journey into, through and out of an abusive marriage
Mickie shares an anonymous story she found on line, a fabulous description of the emotions created by living in abuse, finally accepting the reality of the situation and the danger, emotion, and freedom of escaping.
Everyone knows time is Money. I say time is Life. Mickie lived in abuse for 34 years. She “spent” a lot of her precious time living in fear and control; precisely 408 months, 1,768 weeks, 12,410 days! Even though it often feels this way, how we choose to use our time is not out of our control.
Mickie discovered an on-line list and description of emotions experienced by abused women. The information was created by Rape and Abuse Crisis Center and, along with their descriptions, Mickie adds her personal experiences and feelings associated with each emotion.
For a little more than two years Mickie Zada consistently created weekly podcasts titled “The Second 53 Years” and “Figuring It Out After 50”. Since deciding to take her podcasts and business in the direction of addressing domestic abuse, “it’s been a while” since she’s consistently recorded podcasts.
Listen to Patsy Wimmer’s story of making some mistakes in her youth that led her into the arms of an abusive husband. Learn why she stayed for so long and what the final act was that caused her to say “No more!”. Learn how she got out and ended up making it on her own and eventually reconciling with her children!
I had a life changing experience this past week. I was in a situation where I was forced to confront my resistance to talking about domestic abuse and my past. My gut reaction actually surprised me. Could I really still have that much resistance to talking about my own past?
You know where I mean…that spot that you hold so lovingly in a deep corner of your imagination, that some would call only a dream. It’s where you dreamed that your mean parents, who made you obey rules and go to bed early, turned out to be your Adoptive Parents.
I’m a risk taker. Not risk like jumping out of planes or hang gliding off Grandfather Mountain. Nope, not me. I take risks like becoming an entrepreneur, putting ideas out there that might be laughed sneered at or recording live videos or riding a bicycle 3,000 miles across the country. Those are my kinds of risks…mostly slow and easy. Not much that I try will kill me.
Recently, during a Tony Robbins seminar, Sabine Kvenberg walked on fire! An entrepreneur, business owner, author, singer/songwriter, coach and inspirational speaker, you’d expect this woman to be a hyper over-achiever. You’d be wrong!
Have you read the book “Heart Math”? It’s phenomenal, and it will change your attitude toward your heart.
It turns out that our hearts can think…our hearts guide us…our hearts are as important to our existence and who-we-are as our brains! Yes, it’s true!
When we open our hearts and our minds to possibilities, all sorts of cool opportunities show up. Whether we take advantage of them depends on our image of ourselves. Do we REALLY know that we are worth it?