You Are Not the Only One. You are Not Alone.

Today’s guest, Lindsey Ellison, wrote in HuffPost, “While our culture gets criticized for being too pro-divorce, I’d like to counter that criticism and say we are a culture of over-tolerance. We tolerate bad behavior and bad relationships for far too long.
We are rewarded for “sticking it out” and are scolded by our society if we don’t. I am often amazed to hear what my clients and readers tolerate in a marriage, and how they feel guilty for even having thoughts of ending the relationship.

To be a Great Parent…

Anna Seewald, Founder of Authentic Parenting, brings clear insight and provides helpful advice for those of us raising children after experiencing domestic abuse.  We discuss the core of her teaching which is, “to be a great parent we need to work on ourselves.  By raising our children, we are raising ourselves, too.” Our discussion includes touching on Programmed Patterns, those things WE learned as kids and have passed on to our kids. 

I Remember the Exact Moment…

Addressing tough issues with confidence, encouragement and love of life, this show is both entertaining and inspiring. My guest is a survivor of sexual abuse (including rape); partner abuse; and is the mother of twins who were abused by their biological father after a judge granted him visitation rights when the children were three years old.

Freedom K9 Project

Do you know there’s a service dog a program for women suffering from PTSD as a result of sex trafficking and domestic violence? There is!

Lydia Wood founded an organization called Freedom K9 Project, specifically to meet the needs of women survivors of domestic abuse and human trafficking. 

Not Many Options

As a home-schooled young woman in a small, relatively closed community, at 19 Sarah was attracted to and married a handsome, charismatic and charming young man who swept her off her feet.  Almost immediately, though she was not physically attacked, his rage at the slighted provocation, criticism of her, dangerous, erratic driving, holes punched in walls and smashed dishes created fear and anxiety in her life. 

Loneliness is a Sign

Don’t you love synchronicity?  I do.  When two totally separate events come together to make sense, I love it!

In the past several days I’ve had people tell me they are lonely.  I’ve been surprised; that’s not something I hear very often. This show discusses loneliness and makes several suggestions to combat the emotion…the action is called personal growth.

No Bigger Illusion

Without regard to what the abuse was doing to you, were you taught not to embarrass your family by talking about your abuse?  Was the message loud and clear that talking about the way your abuser treated you would bring dishonor, disgrace, to him and the family? That is the lesson Mickie allowed to direct her actions and responses for many years.  Once she left, she believed that thought-process was resolved but suddenly, there it was again!

Am I a Fraud?

I was momentarily ecstatic when I read the news brief about me and Surviving Abuse network. Then the fear, the anxiety, the knot in the pit of my stomach erupted!


Top 10 Lessons Learned from Domestic Abuse Survivors

Odds are good that you have heard these Top 10 Lessons but, as a survivor of abuse, they are all buried. Our old buddy, Fear, has over-ridden putting them into practice, even in your new life.

You’ve Been Out of Abuse for a While: What Now?

Even if you’ve been out of domestic abuse for decades, I bet you are still being held hostage, in your head, by your abuser. There are thoughts and experiences that bring back that empty feeling in your stomach, make your heart race and cause the familiar burning dread of fear and guilt in our hearts and minds.

4,774,000 Women in the U.S. Experience Physical Violence by an Intimate Partner Every Year

The number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. The number of American women who were murdered by current or ex male partners during the same time was 11,766. That’s nearly double the amount of casualties lost during war.

Join the conversation: Domestic Abuse is real and we don’t have to live with it! Surviving Abuse Network is one place for you to participate with a sisterhood of domestic abuse survivors. Together we will make a difference. #1in4domesticabuse

Society Does Not Want Us to Talk About Domestic Abuse

Because society does not want to question the Father figure, the Authority figure. If Authority is questioned, the implication is that we are ALL just poor, weak human beings. Nope, can’t let that happen!

And Then I Left the Chocolates in the Car

It’s the holiday season, right?  And, the best way to resolve frustration, loneliness, anger, distress … holiday blues?  Eat.  

In “Eat, Pray and Love Yourself” Mickie tells an embarrassing story about the power of a box of chocolates had over her! 

This time of year,

He Had Me Convinced I Was Crazy

He was kind and caring, and then he turned mean and violent. He told me it was my fault he got so angry. I believed him for the longest time. I believed he wanted to change. If you are a survivor of abuse, you have experienced all those emotions and beliefs. 

Don’t Forget Why You Left

Somewhere in the recesses of our minds we feel guilty for having left our abuser…on some level you still love him; (even years later) you wonder how he’s doing.

We’re barreling toward another holiday season, and it’s easy to excavate only the good memories.

Don’t Believe Everything You Think

Would you tell a friend that it’s OK to be controlled by her husband, to be thrown against a wall, to cover bruises with make-up and long sleeves, to walk back into abuse again and again and again?  

Men Don’t Outgrow Being Abusers

We rationalize until we can’t rationalize anymore.  Sound familiar?  If you’ve ever lived in abuse, you comprehend the reality of that statement.  Mickie shares the story of an abused woman as reported to Huffington Post.  It’s not Mickie’s story, it is Jessica’s;  a woman whom, we hope, did the in-side work necessary to stay out of abusive relationships.

Being Aware of Your Thoughts

Our brains process 12,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day. Our conscious mind processes 40 bits of information per second; our subconscious mind processes 40 Million bits of information per second! Mickie provides ideas and a fun experiment to learn how to be aware of your thoughts, and how to choose the ones that support your growth, safety and sanity.