I was momentarily ecstatic when I read the news brief about me and Surviving Abuse network. Then the fear, the anxiety, the knot in the pit of my stomach erupted!
WHAT IF… WHAT IF… WHAT IF…
Odds are good that you have heard these Top 10 Lessons but, as a survivor of abuse, they are all buried. Our old buddy, Fear, has over-ridden putting them into practice, even in your new life.
Even if you’ve been out of domestic abuse for decades, I bet you are still being held hostage, in your head, by your abuser. There are thoughts and experiences that bring back that empty feeling in your stomach, make your heart race and cause the familiar burning dread of fear and guilt in our hearts and minds.
The number of American troops killed in Afghanistan and Iraq between 2001 and 2012 was 6,488. The number of American women who were murdered by current or ex male partners during the same time was 11,766. That’s nearly double the amount of casualties lost during war. http://bit.ly/2jc1N8x
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Because society does not want to question the Father figure, the Authority figure. If Authority is questioned, the implication is that we are ALL just poor, weak human beings. Nope, can’t let that happen!
It’s the holiday season, right? And, the best way to resolve frustration, loneliness, anger, distress … holiday blues? Eat.
In “Eat, Pray and Love Yourself” Mickie tells an embarrassing story about the power of a box of chocolates had over her!
This time of year,
Since you left your abusive relationship, do your friends and family think you may have lost your mind? You had it all, right? Nice home, strong businesses, important jobs, a good relationship…well, that’s what it looked like.
He was kind and caring, and then he turned mean and violent. He told me it was my fault he got so angry. I believed him for the longest time. I believed he wanted to change. If you are a survivor of abuse, you have experienced all those emotions and beliefs.
Somewhere in the recesses of our minds we feel guilty for having left our abuser…on some level you still love him; (even years later) you wonder how he’s doing.
We’re barreling toward another holiday season, and it’s easy to excavate only the good memories.
Would you tell a friend that it’s OK to be controlled by her husband, to be thrown against a wall, to cover bruises with make-up and long sleeves, to walk back into abuse again and again and again?